# difficult-workplace-conversations

Structured framework for preparing, conducting, and following up on difficult workplace talks, from peer conflicts to salary negotiation.

- skill · `type=skill` · Claude Code, Codex, Cursor, GitHub Copilot, Gemini CLI, OpenCode · 3900 installs · ★ 2592
- Author: softaworks
- License: MIT · policy=mirror · the beginning of the file is at the end of this page
- Source: https://github.com/softaworks/agent-toolkit/tree/HEAD/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md
- Updated: 2026-03-05
- HTML: https://affpapa.org/en/nevibecode/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations

## What it does

The skill guides sensitive workplace interactions through three sequential phases: preparation, delivery, and follow-up. It separates observable facts from emotional reactions. Conversations are anchored to the Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) format, which keeps the dialogue centered on concrete actions rather than assumed intent.

Pre-built scenarios cover chronic deadline misses, public pushback during meetings, and compensation requests. Scripting every word triggers defensiveness; the skill explicitly requires focusing on core themes instead of memorizing lines. It also includes emotional self-regulation rules, such as pausing for 24 hours before addressing issues in anger.

The skill points to markdown guides in its `references/` folder for opening scripts and prep worksheets. Because of that, the agent requires `Read`, `Glob`, and `Grep` tool permissions to inspect reference material.

## Install

### Claude Code (native platform)

1. **Skills CLI (Vercel)**
```bash
npx skills add softaworks/agent-toolkit --skill difficult-workplace-conversations -a claude-code
```

2. **Manually: put the files in place**
- File: `~/.claude/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md` — Copy the whole skill folder; for one project use .claude/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/

### Codex

1. **Skills CLI (Vercel)**
```bash
npx skills add softaworks/agent-toolkit --skill difficult-workplace-conversations -a codex
```

2. **Manually: put the files in place**
- File: `.agents/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md` — For all projects use ~/.agents/skills/

### Cursor

1. **Skills CLI (Vercel)**
```bash
npx skills add softaworks/agent-toolkit --skill difficult-workplace-conversations -a cursor
```

2. **Manually: put the files in place**
- File: `.cursor/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md` — Cursor also reads .agents/skills/ and .claude/skills/

### GitHub Copilot

1. **GitHub CLI**
```bash
gh skill install softaworks/agent-toolkit difficult-workplace-conversations
```

2. **Manually: put the files in place**
- File: `.github/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md`

### Gemini CLI

1. **Skills CLI (Vercel)**
```bash
npx skills add softaworks/agent-toolkit --skill difficult-workplace-conversations -a gemini-cli
```

2. **Platform CLI**
```bash
gemini skills install https://github.com/softaworks/agent-toolkit --path skills/difficult-workplace-conversations
```

### Windsurf (Devin Desktop)

**Manually: put the files in place**
- File: `.devin/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md` — The legacy .windsurf/skills/ path still works

### OpenCode

**Skills CLI (Vercel)**
```bash
npx skills add softaworks/agent-toolkit --skill difficult-workplace-conversations -a opencode
```

### Claude.ai

**Claude.ai**
- Zip the folder and upload it in Settings → Capabilities → Skills

Where a file is given instead of a command, copy the files from the source to that path: https://github.com/softaworks/agent-toolkit/tree/HEAD/skills/difficult-workplace-conversations/SKILL.md

## When to use it
- prepare for performance reviews and missed deadline discussions
- address public peer criticism without triggering defensive reactions
- outline structured talking points for salary adjustment requests
- deliver critical feedback using the SBI framework

## Example prompts
- Help me prepare for a conversation with a teammate who missed three straight deadlines.
- Draft an opening line to address a colleague who publicly criticized my code in standup.
- I want to ask my manager for a salary review; organize my points using the preparation framework.

## Source text · SKILL.md · MIT

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# Difficult Conversations Skill

A structured framework for approaching challenging workplace conversations including conflicts, performance issues, sensitive feedback, and emotionally charged discussions.

## When to Use This Skill

- Preparing for a challenging conversation with a colleague
- Addressing performance issues with a team member
- Delivering difficult feedback to a peer or manager
- Navigating conflict between team members
- Discussing sensitive topics (salary, promotion, termination)
- Handling emotional or defensive reactions
- Following up after difficult discussions

## Core Framework: Preparation-Delivery-Followup

Difficult conversations succeed or fail based on three phases:

### Phase 1: Preparation (Before)

**Purpose:** Set yourself up for a productive conversation

1. **Clarify the Issue**
   - What specifically happened? (Observable facts only)
   - What is the impact? (On you, team, work)
   - What do you need to change?

2. **Check Your Emotions**
   - What am I feeling? Why?
   - Am I calm enough to have this conversation?
   - What might trigger me during this conversation?

3. **Consider Their Perspective**
   - How might they see this situation?
   - What constraints or pressures might they have?
   - What do they care about that I can acknowledge?

4. **Define Your Goal**
   - What outcome do I want?
   - What is the minimum acceptable result?
   - What am I willing to compromise on?

### Phase 2: Delivery (During)

**Purpose:** Have the conversation effectively

1. **Open Neutrally**
   - Start with facts, not judgments
   - Express intent to understand, not accuse
   - Create psychological safety

2. **Share Your Perspective**
   - Describe behavior, not character
   - Focus on impact, not intention
   - Use "I" statements, not "you always"

3. **Listen Actively**
   - Ask clarifying questions
   - Acknowledge their viewpoint
   - Look for shared interests

4. **Seek Resolution**
   - Propose specific actions
   - Agree on next steps
   - Set check-in timeline

### Phase 3: Followup (After)
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